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I’m ready for spring to be here

I spent a few hours today thinking about redoing my inner circle. But here’s the thing. I don’t really have good sobriety on all the behaviors in my inner circle right now and I know that addicts who redefine their

Posted in 12-step recovery, life in general, relapse

Returning to Therapy

It’s been strange, returning to therapy. I thought I was done with all the navel gazing and unpacking, and re-framing. None of that shit is much fun, plus I’m taking a chance that I could be hurt again. My new

Posted in my journaling, relapse, sex addiction, sexual addiction

Today’s Rambling Post, in which I wish to share a great quote but somehow fail to make a broader connection that would show me to be erudite. Several colons were harmed in the editing of this post.

I’m often asked how I can be in recovery and an atheist all at the same time. How do I work steps? Do I actually work the steps or just give them lip service. What about step 11? Do I

Posted in 12-step recovery, atheism, gratitude, relapse, sex addiction, sexaholic, sexual addiction


O ne D ay A t A T ime I didn’t drink, but I did lose my cool and smash a egg on the floor. Real mature. My dear husband wasn’t fazed in the least, but I was pretty shocked

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No title.

I have homework from the new therapist. Did I mention that I’m seeing a new therapist? Yeah. He’s much closer to my home, 5 minutes vs. 2 hours. Here’s a positive sign: I haven’t had a panic attack during any

Posted in 12-step recovery, atheism, i had sex with my therapist, my journaling, non 12-step recovery, rants, recovery tools, relapse, residential treatment, sex addiction, sexaholic, sexual addiction

I’m glad my husband will take care of his own needs

I spent some time talking with my husband today. I wanted to know how he was doing with me resetting my sexual sobriety. We have an agreement that I be honest with him about my acting out, and I’ve been

Posted in gratitude, my journaling, relapse, sex addiction, sexaholic

News Flash

Porn gets boring after awhile.

Posted in life in general, relapse

Do I really have to keep going to meetings for the rest of my life?

The short answer is no, but you should. That makes for a dull blog post, so (of course) I’ll elaborate. Lately I’ve been doing very well. It’s unexpected because I just had a relapse and I figured I’d be right

Posted in 12-step recovery, gratitude, recovery tools, relapse, sex addiction

Feedback Sucks

One of the problems I have with 12-step groups is that I have a hard time balancing acceptance with feedback. When you go to a meeting, one of the time-honored traditions is that there is no cross-talk. That means that

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Changing old patterns

Don’t we all hope against hope that this time, Charlie will refuse to play Lucy’s game? He’s such a nice guy. And Lucy; what a bitch! Don’t you wish Charlie would kick her instead? Guess which one is the sex

Posted in life in general, relapse, sex addiction