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It’s been awhile

One of the reasons I started this blog is that I couldn’t find any other blogs written by sex addicts that didn’t just stop after awhile. I’d find someone I felt I could really connect with or learn from and

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In which I celebrate the ability to choose!

When I first started reading blogs written by other sex addicts, one of the things that really bugged me was when they just quit writing. I hated that! I mean what the heck happened? Did they decide they didn’t want

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A Suggested Recipe for Recovery

I can get really aggravated when people share about things that are just not my experience. There was this one time when I heard a person share about a dual sobriety date, which I thought was an utter crap. That

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Two Years

At my last meeting, I received my two year medallion and was called on to share my experience, strength and hope as the evening’s topic. I got nervous and felt like I lost the thread, which happens almost every time

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Musing About Meetings

Illustration by Nickelas Johnson Jennifer Parks wrote an interesting article about sex addiction. You can be pretty helpless and hopeless and still look okay when you’re a sex addict. I saw a guy this morning that used to go to

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Sexual Health and the Outer Circle

SAA uses the 3 circles as a recovery tool to help members move toward a healthy sexuality. I did my 3 circles toward the end of my treatment, just before family week. I got piece of butcher paper and listed

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Part 2: The Anatomy of a Relapse

Recovery is self-care Relapse occurs when an addict’s life becomes unbalanced. In obvious crisis situations, such as the death of a loved one or loss of employment, addicts are often (but not always) able to recognize that they need to

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Part 1: The Black Hole of Addiction

The Event Horizon In physics the event horizon of a black hole is the point of no return. Addicts suffer relapse when they reach the event horizon of their addictive cycle. In this analogy, you are the sphere, rolling along

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An Itchy Brain Day

I seem to be trudging a strange stream-of-consciousness path today. In this post I meander from being done with religion to the existential question, “What am I? Predator or prey? Or both?” Truly, Patrick Carnes had it right when he

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What is Sexual Sobriety?

If you’re in AA you’re sober when you abstain from all alcohol. Same for NA. Sober means abstinence from all drugs, including alcohol. “Alcohol is a drug. A drug is a drug is a drug.” With sex addiction it’s a

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