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Side Note

*I was writing a post about crying really hard when my son was ill and veered off on a tangent about another time I’d cried that hard, which was supposed to be a line or two, but the words wouldn’t

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Just for today

Just for today is something you hear a lot in recovery. For a person who knows that life is unmanageable while they’re drinking, drugging, gambling, acting out sexually, it’s a no-brainer to know how to make things better: just stop. Unfortunately,

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Art Therapy

One of the hardest parts of going to a residential treatment facility was the impossibility to avoid the “touchy-freely shit.” That would be things like art therapy, meditation, standing on a chair shouting out affirmations. We had group exercises on

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I have homework from the new therapist. Did I mention that I’m seeing a new therapist? Yeah. He’s much closer to my home, 5 minutes vs. 2 hours. Here’s a positive sign: I haven’t had a panic attack during any

Posted in 12-step recovery, atheism, i had sex with my therapist, my journaling, non 12-step recovery, rants, recovery tools, relapse, residential treatment, sex addiction, sexaholic, sexual addiction

Guess What?

As you can see, I reset my sobriety date. Again. Goddamnit. That damn sobriety date was like a badge of success. Now it’s a badge of failure. And yeah, I know we only have 24 hours, blah, blah. But that

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Holy Crap – Did I Really Draw That?

I was just going through some of the images I’ve used on this blog. One of them is a the beginning of a “trauma egg” I posted to give people an idea of what they look like. It’s here. So

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Addiction? Compulsion? Excuse?

I thought sex addiction was an excuse, not a real disease. Cheat on your spouse? That’s okay because you can’t help it if you’re a sex addict. Surf Internet porn day after day? Not your fault when you’re an addict.

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I was standing in line at the grocery store tonight staring at the stupid tabloids and a stupid photo of a rehab facility where a celebrity is supposedly being treated for his sex addiction caught my eye. When I was

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Fearless Confessions

Sue Silverman is one of those authors that was a big help to me when I desperately needed help. I’ve mentioned her book, Love Sick here and here. I talked about the made for TV movie based on that book here.

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Trauma Eggs

One of the exercises we did in therapy when I was in treatment was a Trauma Egg. Here’s a rough sketch of the different parts of a trauma egg. Now let me just say that the therapeutic usefulness of this

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