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Recovery has ruined my acting out

There’s a saying that AA will ruin your drinking. It’s true for sex addiction too. Nothing works as well when you’re thinking in the back of your mind that you might be a sex addict, or in my case that

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Radical or Rigorous? Honesty

One of the tenets of recovery is honesty. You’ve got to stop lying to yourself and lying to others. You have to clear away the wreckage of your past and make amends whenever possible. There’s something very cathartic about living

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Mental Maps

I’m re-reading two books that have been a tremendous help to me in my recovery, Deep Survival and Everyday Survival. Both are by Laurence Gonzales. “Anyone can get lost. I know. I have. But surprisingly few are genuinely prepared to

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Fearless Confessions

Sue Silverman is one of those authors that was a big help to me when I desperately needed help. I’ve mentioned her book, Love Sick here and here. I talked about the made for TV movie based on that book here.

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Addiction is . . .

Here are today’s words of wisdom from my current recovery reading. This is on page 203 of The Survivors Club by Ben Sherwood. “The truth is that I am not prone to accidents,” she writes in her memoir. “I am

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The Pr*cessionary Caterpillar

** Note: This post was edited to make it less likely that students looking for info on this particular type of caterpillar would end up here ** See how that line of caterpillars goes on and on into the distance?

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To the Spouses

A few days ago, Sonia commented on one of my more popular posts, The Anatomy of a Relapse. It’s been a busy few days getting ready for back to school so I didn’t have the time to give her more

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Bully Dance

I’ve been thinking about the complexity of bullying situations lately. And today I happened across the blog of an inspirational woman who is in the midst of an ugly bullying drama, fully casted. There’s the victim, the bully and her

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The Psychology of Evil

It’s funny how things swim together in your head. I’ve just started reading The Lucifer Effect: Understanding How Good People Turn Evil, by Philip Zimbardo and thinking about how his words apply to me. On page 4, this is written:

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Thank You, “K”

You know that saying, “They loved me until I could love myself?” That’s what happens in treatment. I just heard that someone who helped me get better is moving on to a new work opportunity. I don’t know if it’s

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